I’m currently reading A History of Their Own and I’m really enjoying reading about kick ass women I’ve somehow never heard of, re-reading about kick ass women I have heard of and reading about a lot of female stereotypes that started with written history and are still living strong today. But also about traditionally female exploits. Making a home with children and a husband is pretty much farthest away from my interests but female traditions outside that (such as weaving, crochet etc.) is something that attracts me more and more. As is probably obvious on this blog, I feel a very strong kinship with traditionally womanly things because I feel very womanly and girly. The space is comfortable for me, because I largely fit in this ideal. That feeling and consequently the acting out of my own femininity feels empowering when it comes with a consciousness of a history of mysoginy. Having that history and forcefully trying to see traditionally feminine things as more than shallow, vain and trivial are important to me. Sometimes it flabbergasts me to read about the first suffragettes who sometimes renounced traditionally feminine things (most notably frills), something much needed and awesome but also something that still lives strong in today’s feminism, and something that points out internalized misogyny in my eyes. I really love this quote on tumblr regarding that. Again, the hate for what is seen as traditionally female, i.e. fashion, frills, emotions, whatever, is something people should examine. By rejecting that because it’s seen as frivolous, weak and cooperative with the patriarchy, what are they negating? To dismiss that is to reject a traditional notion of femininity in place for what is seen more as masculine. This is obviously not to say that traditionally masculine things should be avoided in place for a matriarchy, something I’m also not cool with, but just to recognise those gender constructs and the consequential negative and positive feelings attached to it, to realise that it is bullshit and traditionally masculine and feminine things shouldn’t be for respectively women or men, and aren’t respectively weak or strong.
Basically: celebrate the femininity you feel no matter which gender or non-gender you are and fuck everyone who says it should be stiffled ✿♡☻ ( ~ ⌒∇⌒) ~

dress: gift; made by a friend, shoes: Mary Quant/eBay, cardigan: originally by clockhouse, tights: second hand

This is an unexpected altering bad purchases post, too! And it’s one hundred percent intertwined with my current thought stream. The cardigan I’m wearing was a bad purchase. In the store I saw it as a beautiful orange colour but when I came home I sorely realised it was red, a cardigan colour I already owned. I was set on giving this away until my growing interest in crochet started. The ruffled sleeves were a failed try at a crochet peter pan collar, so at the suggestion of a friend I promptly cut it in half and sewed it on. Recently, I was inspired to create the collar when I came across this kick ass video which explains the reasoning behind a project of crochet corals that spanned over three continents in 2009, and is still ongoing and probably growing, too:

Crocheting is really growing on me. I love the tactile contact with the wool, and generally doing traditional female handicrafts. This video embodies all of that and more of my interests, too. The internet is a magical place.

Because properly trying to show my clothes and still trying to portray the persona I am trying to create with an outfit is kind of hard sometimes ^O^


  • The collar is really beautiful,makes me want to tackle crochet!(which is a pretty crazy thought for me).I love the whole outfit,and also was wondering how you do your bun in that way? I liked what you wrote about femininty,and am now going to put a history of their own on my christmas list.

    • Thank you! I just put my hair in a really high ponytail, back-combed my hair, softly braided it, and draped it around my head/the stem of the ponytail?

  • So inspiring and beautiful in the true meaning of this word. Alas, I am useless at crochet!


  • aldjklasjdlajsd TOTALLY FREAKING OUT WAHHHH!!!!!!!!! Totally just stalked a dozen pages of your blog. I LOVE YOUR STYLE. Finally! Someone fun and original and unique! And ahhh! Seriously! AMAZING. I would loveeeee to raid your wardrobe one day!

    Totally bookmarking your lovely blog!

  • Aaah the cardigan is so precious now! I love the volume. I disliked crocheting so much when I was a child but I think I’d like it more now. Though I think I’ll always prefer sewing XD.

    • Aah, I always sort of hated sewing and sort of loved knitting. I guess I am more tactile when it comes to that. Wool is so nice and fluffy & sewing is just like putting together scraps of fabric with this really awfully loud and obnoxious machine which makes me nervous so I’m all >:(. When thinking about it though and traditionally female handicrafts at the same time I think I would definitely find enjoyment in making fabrics. Hmmmm….

  • Posts like this are what make your blog so great. You write about feminism in a way that is relatable yet completely inspiring. And that cardigan! It’s beautiful!

    • Thank you, that’s really great to hear! I sometimes think I’m being pretty whiny and navel gaze too much 😀

  • Your thoughts on femininity and feminism are refreshing to read- it’s great to see some intelligence. I’ve just discovered your blog and really, really love your outfit and bookcase.

    I wrote a review of one of the funniest books I’ve read recently. As soon as the f word (feminism) is mentioned I think it scares a lot of people off. I’d definitely recommend Caitlin Moran’s ‘How to be a Woman’ for an entertaining read.

  • Love! I expecially like how you paired it with a pink dress and green tights! Color blocking is the best.

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  • Ahh, i saw that quote you posted on Tumblr and loved it! I got in to feminism and turned mega girly around the same time actually-mainly after falling in love with 20’s fashion and reading about women of that era when i was 13/14! I want to learn how to crochet so much too, found these amazing patterns on Etsy ages back, must must learn!

  • I totally agree with you! I think that people (men or women) have to do masculine things to succeed or be accepted. And feminine things are rejected even for those who love them. It’s a pity.

  • I too identify with ‘stereotypical’ feminine areas like fashion or cooking. And when I tell my classmates and friends that I am a feminist, they use these interests as fuel in their accusations of me being double-sided, and going against feminism by living up to what society (i.e. patriarchy) wants me to be. But I agree with you and find that having compassion and emotions and looking after my appearance and all the other girly stuff does not act to oppress me; but acts to empower me, who understands that I do so of my own free will.

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